It is a common observation that when things go wrong, we tend to blame ourselves and put ourselves down. It is not unusual to see people putting themselves down by saying “I can’t do anything properly” or “I am not a good person”, “I always mess things up”, “how come I always make mistakes.” These statements seem harmless however, they can have a profound effect on our personality and our lives.
These kinds of statements can totally shelter our self-esteem and confidence. Eventually we start to believe in these lies and soon these statements become a lifelong self-fulfilling prophecy.
The same holds true for positive statements. If we say positive things to ourselves our mind will one day start to believe that it is true. This will remarkably increase our self-esteem and confidence. In this blog I will mention some key statements that you can repeat or you can call it as the secret mantras that can dramatically increase your self-esteem.
“I LIKE MYSELF”
My most favorite statement to repeatedly chant is “I like myself”. The more you say I like myself the more you will literally start to like yourself. Initially, it is difficult to say this especially when we all have made mistakes in our lives. We never actually have forgiven ourselves for the past mistakes. However, the more frequently you say it, the easier it is to say this. Eventually your mind starts to believe in this statement, and you start to really like yourself. It is impossible to be unhappy and like yourself at the same time. Therefore, when you consistently say I like myself, you tend to be happier, healthier, and content.
“I RESPECT MYSELF”
The next powerful statement that can have a profound impact on your life is “I respect myself”. We human beings tend to lose respect for our own-selves due to two main reasons. For example, we may lose respect for our ow selves when we commit a sin or anything wrong that goes against our values. We may also lose respect for ourselves when someone else disrespects ourselves and puts us down. Both of these issues can be resolved. The first issue can be resolved by totally forgiving yourself of all the mistakes you did in the past and compensate it. Seek apology from the ones you have hurt or harm intentionally or unintentionally. They forgive you or not, it’s none of your business. You just seek forgiveness for your own conscience. Then forgive your own self, this is extremely important to forgive yourself to make peace with your past. No one is perfect we all have said things to people we should not have said, we all hurt people intentionally or unintentionally, or have committed mistakes we shouldn’t have committed. That is why it is imperative to forgive ourselves. Fully forgive yourself to regain your lost self-respect. Once that is done, start the mantra everyday “I respect myself”. Say it a hundred times every day and feel it. Now this may sound a little crazy, but it works. Close your eyes and say it our a loud” I respect myself”, “I respect myself”, “I respect myself”. The more you say it the more respect you will earn for yourself.
Remember it is important to start this process after the process of forgiving your own self otherwise your conscious mind will, and your conscience will make it difficult for your unconscious mind to believe it. Another exercise you can do is of writing the same statement down every day after you are done saying it. When you write you involve your sense of touch and sense of vision which makes it easier for your mind to believe that you respect yourself.
“I AM ONE OF THE BESTS”
The third statement that can help you tremendously is “I am one of the bests”. When you say it, you raise your self-confidence. The intention is not to be arrogant and start seeing others as inferior. The intention is to see yourself as one of the bests. When you say it out loud, you start to see yourself as a different and a better person. This mantra makes you believe that if someone else is the best, I can also be the best. Therefore, it is important to not confuse it with arrogance and seeing others as inferior. In fact, it’s just the opposite. You see yourself and others as the best, you feel that if someone is best in my field, I can also be the best. There can be two best people. Why can’t there be two best people? Of course, there can be. So, don’t wait and start saying yes, I am one of the best people in my field. Repeat it almost every day.
These three powerful mantras mentioned in this blog are extremely valuable statements that can have a profound impact on your future. Repeat them as much as you can. You can find time to repeat them when you are taking shower, or jogging, or exercising, or when you are at a grocery store in a waiting line or at a barbershop or when you are driving. For my driving or jogging is the best time to repeat these mantras. The key is to not waste time and utilize these times to repeat these mantras as much as you can. For how long you have to say this? Now the answer to this question is “For the Rest of Your Life.” The reason is if we don’t repeat it again and again for the rest of our lives, the negativity around us will catch us and we will start to feel bad about ourselves. The negativity can be powerful and contagious; therefore, you have to deliberately repeat it to make your unconscious mind believe it and keep believing it.
Dr. Hassaan Tohid