We are the product of our inner world. In order to be successful in our lives we need to conquer our inner world. Once we conquer our inner world, we attain the mental peace and tranquility needed to attain the remarkable success we all dream about. Most people don’t make it to the top because of not having the inner peace. The peace and tranquility can be achieved by certain rules. I want you to follow the following steps to achieve the inner peace.
Altruism means doing good to others, or helping others. Doing good to others can be in many forms, just talking to someone nicely is an act of altruism. Helping others financially, helping others by guidance and support, or taking an old neighbor to the doctors’ appointment, all of these can be the act of kindness or altruism. Promise yourself that you will at least do one act of kindness every single day. Don’t spend a single day without doing an act of kindness with others that day. Altruism doesn’t mean going to your church, mosque, or temple, altruism means serving and helping people. Many people confuse it with prayers and going to church, temple, and mosques. Going to your place of worship is also a nice act, but it alone is not enough to give you the mental peace and tranquility you are looking for.
This should be your resolution now, that “I will not go to bed without doing an act of random kindness for at least one person.” I am not asking you to become Mother Tresa, Princess Diana, or Abdul Sattar Eidhi, I am asking you to do to tiny acts of kindness like giving a glass of water to a thirsty person, buying food for someone who cannot afford to buy food, just a smile can be an act of random kindness. Feeding an animal can also be an act of random kindness. All the living beings can be benefitted by our act of kindness. You should start this act of kindness from your home, and then also expand it to strangers as well. You will notice you will start to feel better and better. You will soon notice the peace of mind coming into your life. You will also notice that if the act of kindness is with someone who cannot do anything in return for you, you will feel more happiness and tranquility.
Don’t expect anything in return for this kindness. The moment you expect anything from people, you will lose the peace of mind. Your expectations are from your God or the nature (if you believe in nature), but don’t expect anything from human beings- the greatest destruction of the peace of mind is the expectations from people. Take these expectations out of your life. Don’t even expect a thank you from someone whom you just helped. The moment you expect it, your good deeds are gone and your mental peace will run away from you.
Another action that will give you the peace of mind is praying. Now yes go to your place of worship that you go to. People who pray remain happy and peaceful. Spirituality does provide the peace of mind and happiness and reduces stress and grief from life. If you don’t believe in religion then go to a place of natural beauty. Going to the naturally beautiful places like ocean, forest, and mountains will tremendously help you in attaining the mental peace you are looking for. Being religious and being spiritual are two different things, I know so many people who are spiritual but not religious. If you are among those people, then meditate, otherwise pray. Read the religious scriptures of the religion you belong to, the Bible, the Torah, the Quran, the Bhagvat Geeta, the Vedas etc. Go deep into the religious books. If you don’t believe in religion then read books on spirituality and meditation.
You will soon start to feel mental peace and attain the inner peace we all desperately need.
The last action I would like to mention that you need to follow is the forgiveness. We all have heard forgive others, forgive everyone, but I am telling you to forgive yourself first, you need to start with yourself. We all have done wrong things in our lives, and we live with a guilt and grief that why did we do it? Be kind to yourself and forgive yourself, and make a decision to never repeat it again. The moment you decide you will never repeat it again and forgive yourself, you become a new person, you attain inner peace.
Remember you are not that person anymore, it was your past, if you hurt anyone in the past, now you must forgive yourself and seek forgiveness of those whom you have hurt. If they forgive you or they do not, that’s their problem. What matters is, have you forgiven yourself?
Start today, forgive yourself, and seek forgiveness of those whom you have hurt or damaged. Write them an apology letter or text message and don’t expect that they will forgive you (It is none of your business). Now, its time to forgive all those who hurt you and damaged you. We all have people in our lives who hurt us at some point in our lives, should we live with that grudge and negative feeling of revenge? No we just simply forgive them. We become a bigger person when we forgive those who hurt us or damaged us.
Last of all, I would say, don’t expect an apology from those who hurt you. Don’t think someone owes you an apology. Now just think about it, if someone owes you a million dollars, who is in power? That person is in power because now he has control over you until he returns the money. Similarly, if you think someone owes you an apology, then that person is in power and you are weaker. Take that power away from others, nobody should owe you anything, you are way bigger than that. If you follow these suggestions mentioned in this blog, you will attain the inner peace that everyone desires.
Do one act of random kindness everyday. Help others and don’t even expect a thank you from them. They don’t have your reward, your reward comes from the heavens, it is in the skies.
Go to the place of worship or spirituality, and pray or meditate. Read religious scriptures, and be the most pious person you know.
Last of all, forgive yourself, seek forgiveness from others whom you ever hurt in the past, but don’t worry if they refuse to forgive, that is their problem. And forgive others, don’t even expect an apology. The moment you expect even an apology or even a thank you, you give your power away.